Building Up, Not Tearing Down

As I reflect on another year together as a congregation, I'm grateful. Time and again, I see evidence of your deep love for one another, your support for our leaders, and your shared commitment to the mission God has given us. Albeit imperfectly, ours is a church full of people seeking to build up rather than tear down, to speak words of encouragement rather than uncharitable criticism. This spirit of grace and unity is a gift from God, and I thank Him for each of you.

In particular, I want to commend the way you engage with one another and with our ministry leaders. Whether through kind words, notes of thanks, or a willingness to offer constructive feedback in a spirit of openness and love, you demonstrate what it means to be a body of believers striving with renewed purpose toward unity in Christ. This is not something to take for granted. Healthy communication and mutual respect are hallmarks of a Christ-centered church, and I’m grateful for how faithfully you pursue, even embody, these values.

Building Up, Not Tearing Down

Occasionally, however, a note or comment surfaces that doesn’t reflect this shared commitment. Recently, an anonymous note was received by one of our staff ministry leaders. While such instances are exceedingly rare and generally out of character—thankfully so—they serve as a reminder of the importance of addressing concerns in a biblical and constructive way.

Scripture provides clear guidance on how we are to communicate within the body of Christ. Paul writes in Ephesians 4:15 that we are to speak “the truth in love,” and in 1 Corinthians 14:26, he reminds us that “all things [should] be done for building up.” 2 Corinthians 4:2 reminds us that "we have renounced secret and shameful ways." Healthy communication requires transparency, accountability, and a genuine desire to strengthen and encourage one another.

Anonymous criticism, however, misses this mark. It not only lacks love and accountability but also hinders the kind of open, redemptive dialogue that fosters unity. It sows seeds of fear and division and, perhaps most concerning, undermines the confidence and well-being of the staff and leaders who serve faithfully and sacrificially. As brothers and sisters in Christ, we are called to a higher standard—one of grace, humility, and courage.

If you ever find yourself feeling the need to offer feedback—whether about worship ministry, a program, or any other aspect of church life—please know that your thoughts are valued and welcomed. The best way to share them is by bringing them directly to the appropriate leader or the Board of Elders. This allows us to engage in meaningful, prayerful conversations that build up the church and reflect the love of Christ. While your opinion or preference might not carry the day, it will be heard and considered with respect and care.

A Culture of Encouragement

While this reminder is important, I don’t want it to overshadow the incredible culture of encouragement and grace that defines our congregation. The overwhelming majority of you consistently speak life into others, whether by thanking our leaders, praying for our ministries, or offering support and kindness in ways both big and small.

I think of the kind cards and expressions that flooded our office during the Christmas holiday or the words of appreciation shared after a worship service or ministry event. I see how you care for one another, reaching out to those in need, celebrating each other’s joys, and walking alongside each other in difficult times. This is what it means to be the body of Christ, and it is a beautiful testimony to the power of the gospel at work among us.

Moving Forward Together in Love

As we move forward, let us continue to build on this strong foundation. Let us remain committed to being a church where grace abounds, where our words reflect the love of Christ, and where every interaction serves to glorify God and strengthen His people.

For the overwhelming majority of you who already live this out so beautifully, thank you. Your faithfulness inspires me and blesses our entire church. For the rare moments when one of us falls short, let this be a gentle yet clear encouragement to reflect on how we can better embody the love, accountability, and transparency to which we are called.

May our church continue to grow in grace and truth, shining as a light in White Oak, McKeesport, and the world for His glory.